Rude Magazine

Welcome to Rude magazine, an online resource for better health, sex and relationships. Inside you’ll find news, opinion, features and reviews relating to sexual pleasure and exploration, and the latest scientific thinking about women and pleasure.

Sex is free, fun and good for us but it can also be a source of anxiety. Professor Alan Riley from the Lancashire School of Medicine and Health says loss of libido is the number one sex complaint amongst women. A recent report by Relate shows an increase of 240% from 1996 – 2002 in the number of couples seeking help for loss of desire. The Kinsey Institute is also about to publish a survey suggesting that 21st century women are having less sex than their grandmothers. (Psychologies July 2011).

Vaginal rejuvenation surgery is growing area of medicine – there are now 200 clinics worldwide offering this service. Women come in all shapes and sizes – check out sculptor Jamie McCartney’s Great Wall of Vagina to see how different we are. We don’t believe in nip/tuck unless there’s a medical reason for it. The labia have a part to play in sexual response and pleasure so it seems a little crazy to mess around with nature. We support charities such as Forward that campaign to put a stop to the practice of female genital mutilation in countries where women and children have no say in the matter.

While men have access to Viagra, the race to create a little pink pill to market to women hasn’t been successful. Problems with desire, arousal, orgasm and painful sex are labelled ‘female sexual dysfunction’ and ‘hypoactive sexual desire disorder’ and drug companies claim that 43% of women in the US suffer from this, a figure that most experts view with skepticism. The reason Viagra doesn’t work for women, is because female sexuality is complex; involving the ‘heart, head and hormones,’ says gynaecologist Professor John Studd. We need to approach sex holistically taking diet, lifestyle, exercise, stress levels, work and personal relationships into account before we label someone ‘dysfunctional’.

This site is an ongoing exploration of pleasure, mindfulness and education through conscious kink, Taoism and Tantra. It is inspired by personal growth workshops at Sacred Pleasures, sex coach training, The London School of Mistressing, kinky salons and more. We aim to bring you the latest thinking and resources to make life fun, juicy and passionate.

The Libido Survey

We are helping Dr Michel Jemec of Swiss fertility clinic ProCrea to research female libido. If you’d like to take part in a short survey please see our Facebook page.

Enjoy the magazine. Please contact us if you have any questions, comments or topics you’d like us to explore…

With spanks!

Nicci